GETTING MARRIED vs STAYING MARRIED
There is lots of advice out there on what it takes to get married from being able to cook for women and being capable of providing for men. While I believe this is good advice, it’s simply basic survival skills that every human being should have. When it comes to a marriage, this advice won’t take you beyond the first six months. Too many couples focus on getting married and not staying married. If you want a quality relationship that will endure, you’re going to need to be able to do more than cook and provide.
Here are some very important qualities that will lead to a lasting, quality relationship.
The ability to consider someone else’s feelings over your own is something that will be extremely essential in keeping your marriage strong. This doesn’t mean you won’t value your own feelings, but it means that you won’t count your feelings as more important than your spouses.
Faithfulness is huge! Being human, temptation is almost unavoidable but you have to not only resist temptation, but you have to AVOID putting yourself in situations where temptation could get the best of you. Don’t allow yourself to be alone with your extremely attractive coworker; avoid that situation at all costs!
Don’t let a day slip by without fulfilling each other’s needs. There’s a great book called The 5 Love Languages that tells how different people experience love. Find out your spouses “Love Language” and be intentional about filling up their “love tank.”
Listening is the most important part of communication. Listening is love! People want to be heard and understood and if your spouse is not being heard and understood, you’re doing a great disservice to your relationship.
Fight for your relationship. My husband and I have a rule where we don’t mention the word divorce. You have to make up in your mind that your relationship is forever. Keep toxic words such as divorce and separation out of your vocabulary and speak life into your relationship. Set it in your mind that your relationship will be forever and fight to make it the most beautiful marriage in the world.
Establish a Foundation
This is the MOST important quality. The origins of marriage is from God and divorce is only frowned upon from a religious point of view. So if marriage is a God thing, why not make God the foundation of your marriage? Love WILL NOT keep your marriage together. Over the course of your marriage you will experience a million different emotions for your spouse, ranging from loving them to despising them. When your marriage is at its worst what will keep it together? Your marriage HAS to be built upon some moral standard and I would implore you to choose God.