THE RELATIONSHIP PLAN
The hashtag RelationshipGoals has been widely used throughout social media. Whether it’s matching sneakers or being rich like Jay-Z and Beyoncé. Well, we all know, to accomplish a goal, a plan needs to be implemented.
Let us look at this from a business perspective, for a business to achieve long term success a plan must be put into place. Likewise with a relationship. If you want to have a successful relationship, you have to PLAN to have a successful relationship. A plan simply means you’re prepared. Are you prepared to have a successful relationship? If not, here are few questions you need to answer. Grab a pen and let’s start planning.
In a business plan, the executive summary tell why a business is uniquely qualified to succeed. In terms of a relationship, what makes you unique to succeed? Are you patient? Are you willing to grow? Are you selfless?
A business overview gives the history- how the organization was formed. What’s the history of your relationships and how can you use it to improve your future relationship?
In a business plan, the customer analysis section explains the target audience- who the business wants to attract. Who is your target audience? What kind of spouse do you ultimately want to attract?
A business competitive analysis section explains what advantages it has over the competition. Example- what advantage does Chick-fil-A have over McDonald’s? Enough to crush the whole empire in my opinion. What about you? What is it that’s sets you apart from everyone else?
A business marketing plan elaborates on the promotion strategy- what tactics will be used to attract customers. What’s your attraction tactic? How will you promote yourself to attract your desired spouse?
This section of a business plan details exactly how the business will run. Is there a certain way you want your relationship to operate? Plan out exactly how you want it.
Remember when writing out a business plan, one thoroughly thinks through all aspects of the business then comes up with a strategy for success. Your relationship plan should be thoroughly thought out in order to achieve ultimate success.
-Lucas & CorineMarie
Should Couples Have Access To Each Other’s Phone In A Committed Relationship?
Lucas and I asked this question on my Facebook page and opinions definitely differed. Before we give the consensus on this answer we want to give a little background on why we asked this question.
When Lucas and I first started dating back in 2007 I was still carrying some baggage. By baggage, I mean my previous boyfriend. Though I was completely done with him, I was still entertaining conversations with him. One night Lucas, who I was just dating at the time, went through my phone and saw some text messages between my previous boyfriend and myself. It was nothing too incriminating, just a couple “I miss you’s but we’ll never work” type of stuff. You know how it goes, sometimes you’re still breaking up even after you already broke up.
Now some would argue that Lucas, who I was just dating at the time, had no business going through my phone and I would agree. However, that was an argument we had to save for later. In that moment we had to deal with my wrong doings. I betrayed his trust and it became my job to fix it. In order to assure him that I was no longer talking to my previous boyfriend, I granted him an all access pass to my phone and that’s how the trust between us was restored. Today, we usually advise couples who are struggling with trust to exchange passwords to everything (email, social networks, phones) and leave that part of the relationship open but there’s often a lot of push back, so we wanted to get a general opinion on this topic.
Our fellow Facebookers weighed-in and here are their thoughts:
1. Access should only be allowed if you’re in love and in a committed relationship. HOWEVER, just because there is access granted doesn’t mean you have free range to monitor everything going on inside the phone. When your constantly looking for something bad even the smallest things will intensify.
2. Others said they firmly believe in personal privacy. They trust their mates and they don’t need passwords.
3. Others said if there is a problem with phone access being granted, it’s because they’re hiding something. There may not be cheating but there may be flirting going on in preparation of cheating.
As you can see, there is not a yes or no answer to this question. Each individual couple has to use their own discretion. However to weigh in our opinion, we feel that if the other person in the relationship needs validation because of something you have done to cause distrust, then it is absolutely your responsibility to validate them or be prepared to lose the relationship.
Lucas & CorineMarie