5 Things Every Girl Who Wants to get Married Should Know
1. Have a Worthy Candidate
First thing first, you need to find someone worthy of your time. A handsome face with a job is simply not enough. Only invest your time in someone who is God fearing, loyal, honest, selfless, motivated, and wise. Make no excuses and don’t settle on this one, because the only thing worse than DATING the wrong man is MARRING the wrong man.
2. You be Happy First
There is no possible way that anyone else can make you happy if you’re not first happy within yourself. We often get confused and feel that someone else is responsible for our fulfillment. We’ll spend insane amounts of time and energy trying to mold someone into the man of our dreams, forgetting that only true fulfillment can come through God. So stop trying to mold others into what you want them to be and focus on molding yourself into being the best you.
3. Communicate Your Values
Before you get too deeply involved with anyone, make sure they are aware of the things you wholeheartedly honor and believe in. If God is important to you, communicate that. If you can’t be with someone who smokes, let them know immediately. Relationships require compromise, however, your values should not be something you have to settle on.
4. Sometimes Love is a Decision, Not a Feeling
Once you get through the first three steps and find yourself in a thriving relationship, remember that “and then they lived happily ever after” are for books and movies. In reality, times are going to get tough and the only way to progress to the next step is to make a conscious decision to work through your issues. Two different people who have two different personalities aren’t going to easily mesh together. Selfishness is the biggest fatality in all relationships. We want what we want and if we don’t get it, we start the blame game. Stop pointing the finger and ask yourself, how can I understand them better. Your selflessness and willingness to meet them in the middle will act as motivation for your worthy candidate to do the same. If you want your relationship to work, you have to CHOOSE to make it work.
5. Know You are Worth the Wait
I was no virgin when I got married, but I wish I was. If I could take it all back, I wouldn’t have allowed those unworthy candidates to even look at me, let alone touch me. We live in an overwhelmingly sexualized country. There are too many “I’m lonely and I got needs” going on and not enough “I’m too precious to recklessly give myself over to a handsome heartbreaker so he can use me then move along to the next!”
Women often complain about their children’s fathers not being much of a father. That’s because 9 times out of 10, he was only looking to have a good time, not become a father, which brings about another set of issues that are too deep for me to get into right now…
The point is, even though waiting until marriage to have sex is a foreign concept these days, it can be accomplished. If you truly have a worthy candidate, he will respect your wishes AND it just might get that ring on your finger a little quicker.